I have heard many women ask me why did he leave me. They then wonder
how he can just turn his
feelings off like a light switch. I get it, it
does seem this way. It’s hard to see the why of it when your emotions
are wrapped so tight into the pain of his leaving.
Now there are many reasons why men leave, but there are two that more
times than not are at the root cause of why he left. Men don’t just up
and decide to leave. If he left you, he has probably had it in the back
of his mind for sometime and just put off the inevitable, breaking up
with you.
The first reason is women creating too much drama for him or trying
to change him. Maybe you were accusing to him by telling him he never
does this or that anymore. Maybe you gave him a hard time when he wanted
to spend time with friends instead of you. This starts to make a man
feel untrusted and men must feel trusted to thrive in a relationship. If
you were giving him a lot of lip service in the form of nagging or
whining, he sees it as you trying to change him. This over time wears a
man down and he starts to feel less of a man. Not good.
Men tune out the drama. You can bet if you gave him lip service, he
wasn’t hearing your words. Men respond to actions and distance. Lip
service is a waste and only drives him further away. If you are saying
why did he leave me, you may want to think about how you contributed to
this decision.
Another way women create drama is by believe it or not giving too
much. It makes a man feel a sense of obligation when a woman is too good
to him. She gives and gives and he sees it as her seeking security with
him and not within herself. A woman that gives too much almost always
loses the man.
The second top reason is not going to make you feel any better but
there is a truth in it almost always. He has had someone else spark up
his interest or he is thinking that there is someone else out there who
can. Yes it’s thoughts of another woman, whether she is real or someone
he thinks is still out there. The grass is greener concept. He is still
searching for the one and he is convinced it is not you.
Tough pill to swallow, but rarely do men just leave for no reason. Men do not leave because they are jerks although it often feels this way. If you are wondering why did he leave me, it’s rarely for no reason.

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