The Three Tiers of Relationships
1/ Friendship
2/ Love
3/ Relationship
Whether you are single and looking for love, or double and going
through challenges in love, there can be great advantage in
understanding how relationships work, and a foolproof way of dealing
with challenges in them.
Going through relationship challenges, the key is not to react. Learn to let go.
Love really is a non attachment. To love someone or something is to
release it. Let them be themselves. To love a child is to release your
expectations of them. To love your partner means unconditional. No
matter where they are, no matter what they do, no matter what they did
or didn’t do. You love them. This is the truth
In times of challenge, go to the bleachers. Go sit in peace, if you
release the bird, and it doesn’t return, it wasn’t yours. Let Karma play
its hand.
Don’t push and shove – learn to love.
You can gain allot of confidence in karma if you know you have done
your best. By following the guidance of Sacred Love book, you know you
are not the “cause” and therefore, you can trust Karma. Let the universe
do what it must. Lay down your weapons. Trust Karma
If you grab you are interfering. If you reject you are interfering.
Hold your space and deal with the emotions as they come up, without
reaction or action. Hold the space of love, trust, that if you stay in
this space, then Karma will play its hand.
All relationships must be founded on three things.
The ground must be solid and built on friendship. If there is
friendship, then, the worst outcome of a fall from love is a beautiful
place with a person we want to care for and love. So if there is drama,
hold your lover as a friend. Offer friendship as an alternative to
relationship. If you can’t be friends with someone you want to be in a
relationship with, then you have been revealed as a phoney. Friendship
means to wish for someone’s happiness and to do what you can to help
them. If you can’t be a friend to someone, how can you have a
relationship with them? This is the base layer that needs to be real
genuine and solid. In other words if you wouldn’t be a friend of the
person you are in a relationship with (if there was no relationship)
then, really your relationship is killing you both.
The second tier, once friendship is established, is love. This sort
of Love must be unconditional love. To love means to release and hold at
the same time. Love is the willingness to let the bird fly and know if
it is meant to be yours, it will return. This is the second tier. To
know how to hold love for someone even if they don’t want relationship
with you is the gift of Innerwealth. Love is not a condition that is
placed on someone. Unconditional love, the foundation for REAL
relationships has no IF. There is no IF. There is no condition for the
love that underpins a relationship. Love is the foundation from which
the emotional and physical and conditional experience of relationship
can grow. If you or your partner cannot understand this concept of
unconditional love, then all that is built in relationship is temporary.
Love must, in its purest form, be unconditional
The third tier is the relationship. A relationship that is based on
friendship, motivated by love, has no where bad to fall. The worst that
can happen is that you might end up holding love for a person you like,
but don’t have control over them. Relationship is the cream on the cake,
the self satisfaction of a dynamic between two humans. Emotional.
material, experiential and personal – a wonderful expression of all that
underpins it. A relationship with someone is the crown, but it cannot
be allowed to exist in the absence of a willingness to be a friend, and
to love (therefore release) unconditionally. Relationship can come and
go, but the willingness for friendship and love, are the truth that
lives beneath it. Always know that the worst that can come, if
relationship is lost, is that you get to love someone you like, but now,
just can’t control.
To be a good friend, you’ll need to have a sense that your dreams,
hopes and ambitions are your own. They are portable, adaptable and
transferable. If they don’t manifest in the company of one person, they
will manifest in the company of others. Relationships are not there to
cause your dreams to manifest. Relationships are a part of the process.
Trust nature in this. Let her guide you, learn to adapt to the changing
tides of life. Hold your dreams and purpose sacred, allow nature some
hand in the dynamics through which they manifest.
To know love, unconditional love, is to understand the difference
between your expectations and your love. People can reject your
expectations they cannot reject your love. Hold your love cantered in
your heart. Know that you can never stop loving someone you can only put
your mind in the way. Practice this as instructed in Innerwealth – The
book of love.
Relationship must be seen as the bubbles in the Champaign, the icing
on the cake, the cream. The crown. Relationships built on friendship and
love, are places of celebration. There is a health independence as only
friends know. There is a healthy perspective, as only unconditional
love can produce. There is a willingness to dance and struggle as only
the provocation and intimacy of a relationship can create. This is
relationship built on friendship, sustained by innerwealth, celebrated
in intimacy.
Live with spirit

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