Anger Management: 5 Tips to Manage Anger Bursts Quickly

You might have anger problems or struggle coping with certain conflict situations. No matter how pent up your anger possibly is, there are always ways in which you can use to help
control your anger to avoid damaging relationships which could have been saved from the start.
To help fight anger flare ups, you first need to identify what is the true underlying cause of your anger outbursts. Everyone has a reason for being angry all the time. Your parents might have divorced when you where a young age, leaving you “confused”. You might have been abused at a young age. Whatever the case may be, YOU know what it is.
There are 5 things you can do today that will help you control your anger:
1. Forgive
This is probably the number 1 thing that you can do to dramatically decrease your anger levels – overnight. By simply talking to the person who has caused you to develop such anger you have the opportunity to set things straight. And no, this does not mean bash their face in. Forgive them. Forgive them for what they have done. If you don’t want to say it around them in fear of embarrassment or confusion on their part, then say it out loud somewhere alone. Go to bed at night and tell yourself you forgive them.
2. Get an outlet
Everyone has to release negative energy on a regular basis. if you don’t do this, you will inevitably explode. I do jiu jitsu and boxing in order to release anger. It works wonders. Do some sport or go to the gym. Just do ANYTHING that helps the blood flow. Trust me, this works wonders as a outlet.
3. THINK first
Remember to always think about what you want to say before you say it. There has been so many times that I have said things only to regret them afterward. When you learn how to give yourself 3 seconds before saying anything during an argument or verbal back-and-forth, you will find that you will usually have much more control over your anger…and a better grip over the outcome. Think…that’s what wise people do.
4. Be GRATEFUL
When was the last time you sat and thought about all the things and people you are grateful for? Do you know that by thinking about all the things you are grateful for, you bring peace and happiness into your soul, even if it’s only for that time being. Do this trick, when you wake up in the morning and you get dress, think about all the people or things that you are grateful for. For each item you dress yourself with, socks, shirt etc…think about something. It can be the food your wife puts on the table, the great experiences you had with a friend, the good talks and laughter with your father or mother. Do that and you’ll see how easily you forgot about all of that in the beginning.
5. Talk to someone
This is great therapy. Confide in someone. Whether it’s your girlfriend, boyfriend, cousin or even neighbor. If you have to opportunity to talk freely to someone and you feel comfortable doing so, then do it. Talk about how you feel. By sharing, you are blowing off steam…even if you aren’t boiling! Why do you think there are therapists in this world? They are good listeners! And having someone listen to your problems is a great way to also sooth it.