Must Read: Understanding and Managing Wedding Tension

Wedding is an event where the people involved want to prove to the world that they are matured,
responsible, honorable and strong enough to be adults. No matter the level of preparation made by the couple involved there will still be tension. This tension can either originate from inside (that is, internal) or be generated from external.
INTERNAL SOURCES OF TENSION
– Lack of enough money to run the wedding project can lead to serious tension especially when getting close to the wedding day. When there is not enough money to buy foodstuff, or to rent hall of wedding, and other sundry needs for the wedding, one can become jittery and anxious which signals tension.
– When wedding suit or wedding gown is not yet sewn or clothes for the bridal train are not ready very close to the wedding day, the bride or groom-to-be can become tensed up.
– In the midst of these inadequacies, disagreements are bound to come between the bride and the groom-to-be. This can cause or result to great tension if it is not properly managed.
– The couples to be may face serious tension because of calamity or disaster that happened to either of them close to their wedding day. This disaster may include accident, bereavement of loved ones, lost of job, transfer or even sickness.
EXTERNAL SOURCES OF TENSION

This type of tension does not come from within but from external environment or people. Some of them are controllable while some of these factors are beyond human control.
– Among these source of tension is rainfall. On the wedding day, rain may decide to fall. It has happened to many people who have wedded in the past time.
– Wedding date chosen six months ago may fall on a day when there will be restriction of movements of persons. This holiday may become public knowledge very close to the wedding day. This can cause tension especially if the date will be changed within a short notice.
– Another source of tension is insecurity in most of our cities and towns. We often have spontaneous attacks of religious and political riots. Some locations are prone to have it more than the other.
MANAGING WEDDING TENSION

These tensions can be managed or controlled. The following can help reduce tension:

– In wedding, there are things that are affordable but not necessary. There are some that are necessary and may not be affordable. Don’t get tensed up about things that are not necessary. Even for the necessary ones, go for affordable alternatives. They are always there.
– If there is any reason to change your wedding date at the last minute, use the radio to announce it. As many as God wants on your wedding will still attend.
– Remember, the most important people that you need to make happy on your wedding day are God and yourself
– When tension is building up, seek counsel.
– Always remember that wedding is a few hours event. Do not allow the happenings at this day to affect a life journey of marriage which you are beginning. A lot of marriages are still suffering from wedding hangovers.