spot and identify these type of men so you can immediately stop yourself from getting involved any deeper so you don’t get your heart smashed to smithereens?
The biggest reason why men back off in relationships is because suddenly everything is getting too real and he’s not willing to commit to it. The first few months of being in a relationship is like being in a fairytale. Everybody is on their best behaviour. Things are light and fun. However, the reality of needing to handle the daily details eventually sets in and that’s when troubles start. Hence, it’s all about whether the man you’ve chosen is someone who is able to follow through. Some men simply don’t have the ability or desire to follow through with having a relationship. When the going gets tough, the man gets going.
I discourage you from imagining you have the ability to change a man (or anybody else). That kind of behaviour only comes across as being a nag, which is extremely unattractive. Hence, the way to avoid getting too deeply involved with this sort of man, is to be less eager about getting into a steady committed relationship and turn your focus and desire to something like: having more fun and just allowing yourself to enjoy the company of charming, decent and attractive men.
Take your time to pick and choose carefully. Do it slowly. One week and date at a time. Don’t get too excited about the idea of having a whirlwind romance. Give yourself the luxury of being pampered and chased by more than one lovely man. You deserve to have as much fun as you can while you are still single and available. The slower you go, the more easily men’s true intentions about being in a relationship will be revealed to you.
An easy way to spot a potentially uncommitted man is how fiercely he pursues you. The stronger his initial pursuit, the more likely he is to lose steam after a few short months. But if he is slow and consistent in his advances, you can be more relaxed about his true intentions. He’s most probably taking his time to get to know you better in order to assess whether you are the kind of woman he wants to marry too.
What if a man insists that you stop seeing other men and only date him exclusively? Don’t be too quick to agree with his idea. Tell him you only want to date a man exclusively when you are sure he’s the kind of guy you would want to marry. Until you can be sure he’s the right man for you, you need to continue to keep your options open. You wouldn’t ask any less from him. A man who is serious about you will understand and even respect your decision. Your reply shows him that you a discerning woman who is able to make careful and calculated decisions. Only a smart and committed man can know how to appreciate such a woman like you. And you deserve nothing less than to be with a man who can and will appreciate and cherish everything about you. Learn how to identify such men so you never have to wonder why do men back in in a relationship ever again!
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